How Finding Your Tribe Heals



Finding your tribe, whether that is one person or one hundred, will help you feel understood.

If you're a highly sensitive person (HSP) it is common to feel like you don't belong, anywhere. This has always been the case for me, and still is. The good thing that I've learned now though is that it's okay. It's normal. Whatever that is.

Being one of the 20% of the population who are highly sensitive, we are the minority, so there are fewer people that we might feel we truly connect with. And, it is likely we will always feel like we don't fit.

Understanding this about myself has transformed the way I think about life, friendships and connections. It has helped me to see why past interactions with certain people have left me feeling hurt, alone and misunderstood. It has also helped me to be vigilant about choosing who I spend my time with. And, it enables me to discerning when looking to start new friendships too.

Keep an eye out for the people you feel you connect deeply with. The ones who upon first meeting you feel like you've known them forever. The ones who are deep, speak from the heart, and are not afraid to do so. The ones who listen, engage wholeheartedly, and question with interest. These are in my experience, soul connections.

Build a clan, big or small with whom you can really connect and your life will change. As I begin to do this more and more, I see a different path in front of me. Rather than one of a large group of highly socially interactive and extroverted people, fewer connections, but for me, much deeper ones. The type I love - deep and meaningful conversations about what really matters to each of us, rather than superficial musings about the weather or everything outside of ourselves. This is what lights me up. This is what feeds my soul.


Have you struggled to find your tribe? I'd love to hear your experiences.


With love,