How to Know You've Found Your Why



For as long as I can remember I have loved to write. And, for even longer, I have had an innate need to express my thoughts and feelings. In my younger years, the latter got me into strife on many occasions in an era when children were to be seen and not heard.


​This I have come to realise was all part of growing up. Learning to judge when to comment, and when not to. Learning what to say, and what not to say (I'm still learning this one). And, learning that all of this aside, I'm a good person.


The reason I do what I do is two-fold: (1) I love to write; and (2) I love to express my thoughts and feelings. That's it. It's simple.


Of course flow on effect of doing this work, is that at times, what I write speaks to others. It prompts them to look at their own life, and it inspires them to take action. This is the beautiful result of what I do; it is the bonus reason.


We hear so much about identifying our why, in life and in business; about having a reason to get out of bed in the morning. Living life on purpose is something we see. But what does this mean? Why is it so important to have a why? And, what is yours?


Your why doesn't have to be some deep dark secret. Your why doesn't have to be profound. Your why doesn't have to be complex. It can be really simple. It can be as simple as the fact that you love to sew, cook, write or play dress ups. Or something equally as uncomplicated. You may love to dance, teach, buy shoes (not looking at anyone in particular here) or ride a bike. It can be anything.


Over the years I've often thought that my why has to be something amazing; that it has to rock the world. It doesn't.


So, how do you find your why?


Here's a short process that might help you:

1. Get quiet. Find a space where you can be still.

2. Ask. Why do I love doing what I do?

3. Go deeper. If you're still not there, ask again.

4. Look back. Your childhood will have clues.

5. Trust. When you find. your why, you will know. Trust that knowing.


​Often times our childhood has the clues. For me, as a young child I loved to play schools

and I always wanted to be the teacher. Then later during my school years, I loved to write. When my peers were detesting the next essay, I couldn't wait. It was my thing. And it has been ever since.


When you've found your why, you will know. Trust that. You will know because you will always get the same result when you ask yourself why. Always. There will never be any wavering.


Question: Let me ask you. Do you know your why? Share with us in the comments,

I'd love to know.


With love,